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teamcoco:

@marlonwayans backstage at #CONAN. (at Warner Bros Stage 15)

This guy just keeps on getting more and more fine as he ages… Wow! G’head with ya fine self Marlon.

teamcoco:

@marlonwayans backstage at #CONAN. (at Warner Bros Stage 15)

This guy just keeps on getting more and more fine as he ages… Wow! G’head with ya fine self Marlon.

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Frustrated with blogging…sort of.

I’ve been blogging for almost 6 years now. I write about breast cancer. Specifically I share thoughts about the disease, my personal journey with breast cancer diagnosis and treatment, and now my life as a survivor. For what its worth, I love my “work”. I do… I love to write so it isn’t a hardship for me to write about my life and my thoughts. I love that it is whatever I make it — meaning that I set the rules for my blog and I don’t need permission from others to write a certain way or not. Blogging has been good to me. I have established myself as a credible voice in the breast cancer community thanks to my writing and my use of social media to bring attention to the disease and the impact of it on people’s lives. However, the “business” of blogging is making me too tired.

Every day, all day, I read stories and articles and such online. I read about a lot of different topics but my top 5 topics to read about daily does include a lot about breast cancer and blogging. I find the “work” of blogging to be somewhat tedious and often times confusing. And yes… I’ve been doing this for years. I’m not so tired that I want to quit but I am confused why some people blog. I know why I blog… but why do other people do it? What story are they here to tell?

So many blogs follow the same “formula” and while there is some comfort in the sameness of seeing so many outlets following similar recipes hoping for similar success… mostly it drives me crazy. There are millions of blogs out here. Why do so many of them look, sound, present the same way? I know what motivates me to write, but I often wonder what motivates other bloggers. Too many blogs look like a place where commercials and ad dollars come to die. On one hand, I love that advertisers and big brands seek out small/middle/large blogs to advertise with. On the other hand, I wonder what joy do these bloggers (these small independent entrepreneurs mind you) get from pitching crap after crap after crap for huge companies?

From my perch, I see that mommy bloggers seem to run this ecosphere as far as influence goes. However, how many blogs can I read/follow about kids in school, DIY projects, cooking meals and the inevitable commercial breaks that sell you everything from lipstick to crockpots to vacuum cleaners and diced peaches without wondering “why am I still here”? I don’t mean to disparage my peers. I know that the struggle is real for coins from this. REAL! But I also want to peep into their heads and see if their intention when they started blogging was to become a permanent billboard for whatever ad network/sponsor/big brand that came along with coins and bills for a little sidebar space. Cuz for me? That is NOT why I started this. And its NOT why I keep at it.

I’ve got a story to tell. I’ve got a mission to present. I’ve got millions of women and men out there in the world who want to know that they are not alone in this struggle and what they are going through is normal. That is why I blog.

But why do my peers blog? If all it comes down to is the same celebrity gossip, the same DIY projects, the same pinterest-ready recipes and the same ads/sponsored posts/rotating spotlights/etc. why are there millions of us in this space?

I want sponsors and partners to be sure. Because money makes it all work better. But I hate feeling like I’m not doing it “right” because I’m not blogging the same way that everybody else is doing it.

I guess I’m just asleep… and slightly crazy too. I just can’t do it exactly the way that other people do. My heart won’t let me. I only hope that doesn’t stop me from being great.

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So obviously I haven’t been living my life right because I’ve never had a lobster grilled cheese before.

So obviously I haven’t been living my life right because I’ve never had a lobster grilled cheese before.

(via foodfuck)

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